Confidence, it doesn’t come over night but it grows over time. It took me 25 years of mistakes, bulling and learning to find my confidence. I am now 31 and I am a new woman. It is a journey worth taking, as I learnt to be who I want to be. Instead of giving you a sob story, I will give you some tips that might help you gain a bit of confidence you have always wanted.

Tip #1 – Stop Caring What Others Think

This is a tip that changed my life forever and mindset. Its one of the reasons you see me as a confident woman. It also took a few books to make me realize what I was doing wrong. I recommend “The life changing magic of not giving f*** “ and “You are a badass” . They changed my mindset, so it changed my attitude towards myself and others.

Tip #2 – Surround you life with positive people

This was tip I wish I had as a teen, as it would have made my life alot happier. Of course, its never too late to make this change, and its needed. It it only took me 27 years to realize my friends around me didn’t really care about me. I read a book called Girl Code, which made me rethink how I see women. I didn’t have alot of girls friends around me, all because I thought they were all drama queens. DAAMMMM did I get that wrong. Today, I have some amazing women who inspire me, care about me, motivate me and make me laugh all the time.

Tip #3 – Love Yourself

This is another tip that without it, I would not be the girl in the pictures at all. Loving yourself if vital to be truly happy and confident. This does not mean you compare yourself to another woman. This means you do no need to search for ways to have plastic surgery, it does not mean you need to wear layers of make up, it does not mean you need to buy expensive clothing and it also doesn’t mean you can also put other women down.

GET UP, look at the mirror and repeat after me “I AM BEAUTIFUL.”, “I AM AMAZING.”. Look at affirmations and say them everyday, till you feel them truly.

Tip #4 – Challenge Yourself To Step Out of Your Comfort Zone.

This is a chance to do things you never thought you would. By this stage you would have passed tip number 1. A thing I did when I stopped caring, I shaved my head for charity. It was liberating and worth it. You do not need to do something that extreme. Take baby steps. Try talking to a new person everyday.

Tip #5 – Manifest what you want in life

If you have dreams, desires, hopes and ambition then its time to manifest. Its time to make your dreams come true. There is no one to stop you anymore as you have changed your mindset.

Tip #6 – Don’t take everything too serious

Do not take everything too serious when there is no need. I have learnt that life is short, and it needs to be enjoyed. Laugh for 15 minutes every day to enjoy how it feels, until it becomes a habit. Smile at the mirror, and love your smile. Go off an wonder through your neighbourhood, and see whats around you. Listen to a new genre a music and dance around.


Dresses and t-shirt from Femme Luxe

Photos by Danilo Torrisi Photography

24 thoughts on “My Way Into Finding Confidence

  1. Surekha says:

    True confidence only comes from inside you. I love this post so much. More people need to remember that they have the power to feel however they want.

  2. Bill says:

    I love your positivity. I think the best point you made here is to love yourself. We have to accept everything about ourselves and love all of it.

  3. Emily says:

    This is such a positive post! You’re right, finding confidence doesn’t happen over night but with these tips it will certainly help.

  4. Natalie says:

    I’m so glad to hear you’ve overcome this. You are beautiful and radiant. Keep believing in yourself. Thanks for sharing your story and these tips.

  5. Kuntala Bhattacharya says:

    You are so lively and loving. I really liked the ideas you have shared. Life is really to be enjoyed and loving your own self is very important. Another important thing you have mentioned, to be surrounded by positive people. Yes, this is very very true.

  6. Dreams Abroad says:

    Do not take everything too seriously is one of my best tips for everyone in this world. Don’t be an uptight, meanie! Relax and laugh when no one else is, you will live longer.

  7. Steven Morrissette says:

    Love your tips. I did struggle that certain point in my life about what others think, But as soon as I stopped letting others opinion bother me my life definitely changed.

  8. Kelly says:

    These are great tips! I have always thought the most important one is to not worry about what other people think. I am always telling my 30 something year old girls this.

  9. Pam says:

    Great tips! I am usually hit or miss on my confidence- so I’m definitely going to check out the books you recommend.

  10. Michelle Segrest says:

    Good for you! I love to read about strong confident women! I especially love your advice about challenging yourself to step out of your comfort zone. This is a really big thing for me and great advice for anyone!

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